Respectful Friendships PSHE lesson plan
A secondary PSHE lesson for Years 7 and 8 that helps UK teachers introduce respectful friendships through a structured, ready-to-teach lesson. Pupils learn practical ways to communicate respectfully, set and recognise boundaries, and work through everyday friendship disagreements. The lesson gives teachers a clear structure for exploring what respect looks like in friendships, including inclusion, fairness and safe ways to ask for help when a friendship feels difficult.
Healthy Relationships & Communication
Snapshot
Respectful Friendships
This lesson gives teachers a structured way to help pupils practise respectful communication and boundary setting within everyday friendships.
Prep time:
5 to 10 minutes
Lesson length:
45 to 50 minutes
Key Focus
Building respectful communication, boundaries and conflict resolution skills in friendships
Lesson Format
Teacher-led discussion and structured activities
What pupils will learn
By the end of the lesson, students will be supported to:
Recognise
recognise what respectful behaviour looks like within a friendship
recognise signs that a friendship boundary has not been respected
recognise when a friendship disagreement may need adult support
Understand
understand that healthy friendships involve give and take, respect and honesty
understand how communication style can affect how a friend feels
Practise
practise using clear, respectful language to set a boundary with a friend
practise steps for repairing a friendship after a disagreement
practise deciding when to ask a trusted adult for help with a friendship issue
Who this lesson is for?
This lesson is designed for Year 7 and 8 pupils who are building more independent friendships and starting to navigate more complex social situations. It suits pupils who are ready to discuss communication, boundaries and conflict resolution in a structured, respectful way.
It is suitable for:
secondary PSHE lessons
relationships education
pastoral care, form time or advisory sessions
friendship and peer relationship skill building
transition support as pupils form new friendship groups
Suitability should be based on more than age alone. Teachers should consider the lesson focus, pupil maturity, cohort needs, classroom culture, existing discussion norms and available support pathways.
Best used when
Use this lesson when students need clear, practical language for recognising unkind behaviour and knowing what to do next.
Introducing respectful relationships Use when pupils are learning foundational language for respect, communication and boundaries in friendships.
Starting a new school year or form group Use when pupils are forming new friendship groups and benefit from shared expectations early.
Reinforcing PSHE relationships content Use to build on earlier relationships education with a focus on friendship specifically.
Practising boundary setting Use when pupils need structured practice saying no or setting a boundary respectfully.
Supporting conflict resolution skills Use when pupils are learning how to work through disagreements without damaging a friendship.
Preparing for transition Use when friendship groups are changing, such as moving between year groups or classes.
The lesson can be used proactively with the whole class. It does not need to follow a specific incident.
Why this lesson matters
Friendships shape much of pupils' everyday experience of school, and respectful communication does not always come naturally, especially as friendships become more complex in early secondary school. Pupils benefit from practical language for setting boundaries, resolving disagreements and repairing friendships when things go wrong. Teaching respectful friendship skills proactively helps pupils build habits of communication and fairness before difficulties arise, rather than only addressing friendship problems after they escalate. This supports a more positive peer culture across the class and year group. The lesson also reinforces that pupils are not expected to manage every friendship difficulty alone, and that trusted adults are available if a situation feels too hard to resolve independently.
How this lesson supports wellbeing
This lesson supports student wellbeing by building practical social and emotional skills students can use in everyday school life. It helps students develop:
Capability How the lesson supports it
Communication Pupils practise clear, respectful language for expressing needs and boundaries.
Empathy Pupils consider how their words and actions affect a friend's feelings.
Boundary setting Pupils learn practical phrases for saying no or asking for space respectfully.
Conflict resolution Pupils practise steps for working through a disagreement and repairing a friendship.
Help-seeking Pupils learn when and how to ask a trusted adult for support with a friendship issue.
Inclusion Pupils reflect on how to include others and notice when someone feels left out.
For teachers and school leaders, the lesson contributes to broader wellbeing, respectful relationships, child safety and pastoral care goals in Australian primary schools.
Teaching notes & Delivery Considerations
This lesson includes content about unkind behaviour, exclusion and asking adults for help. It should be taught with calm, clear discussion norms.

Before teaching
Remind pupils not to name classmates or share specific stories about other people's friendships
Frame discussion around general scenarios rather than personal disclosures
Make clear that the lesson is about building skills, not examining a specific friendship problem
Identify trusted adults pupils can speak to about friendship concerns

During delivery
Use everyday examples such as disagreements, feeling left out or being asked to do something uncomfortable
Give pupils time to practise respectful language aloud or in pairs
Reinforce that pupils are not expected to resolve every friendship difficulty alone
Allow pupils to respond through discussion, writing or paired talk depending on confidence

Supporting safe discussion
Reinforce that asking for help with a friendship issue is a responsible choice
Keep examples general rather than based on real classmates
Be prepared to follow your school's safeguarding procedures and speak with the designated safeguarding lead if a pupil discloses harm or says they feel unsafe.

Adaptation options
Use paired discussion for confident groups and written reflection for quieter pupils
Spend more time on boundary language if pupils need extra practice
Extend the conflict resolution focus for groups working through current friendship group changes

